Forgiveness :: Compassion in Action
3 Min
Meditation
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Lauren Ziegler
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In order to forgive, we need to have tolerance of where that person is at on their journey. This is a sweet Metta {loving-kindness} practice to generate more compassion towards that person in your life. Having compassion is the antidote to so much mental anguish and having compassionate thoughts has been scientifically linked up with better physical health! This is for you if you want to let someone else {and yourself} off the hook, if you want to enjoy the FEEL of compassion, warmth and tenderness. More from your guide and friend, Lauren, at www.laurenziegler.com.
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50 reflections
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Anna
Forgiveness
This was a really great session. Going through a conflict has many facets which we pass through and sometimes repeat. It's like a revolving door. You feel stuck at that same door neither entering or leaving. I've learnt that compassion starts with oneself and then it will flow onto others. Love me
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Elizabeth
Excellent
This 3 minute meditation is incredibly powerful. Thank you Lauren.
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Hayley
This has been so helpful.
Forgiveness is hard but needs to happen. Something I struggle with on a daily basis, this helps.
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Pat
Wonderful tools. 😊
I learned how easy it is to forget about forgiveness and compassion sometimes when I’m feeling a little rough around the edges. I’m so grateful to experience this meditation. 😊
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Adrienne
Forgiveness is truly the cornerstone for a healthy and amazing life!
I learned that forgiveness is ultimately the greatest way one can detox every aspect of life: Spirit, Mind, and Body. For when you do, no root for negativity is available.
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Heather
Struggle in forgiveness
I learned that it's okay to struggle with forgiving someone and it's okay for someone to help walk you through it. Even if, in this case, it's a three minute meditation.
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Allyn
Forgiving is easy, so is forgetting.
When the person you have forgiven and forgotten Handcuffs themselves to your legs, it makes things difficult. How can I avoid being reminded of these people's disinterest in letting go of me? It's especially difficult when it's in their best interest to keep me emotionally bound, and stagnant...it's guess this is how life is, a myriad of ways for things to go wrong, and no way to get anything right. I have accepted defeat, and moved on, but defeat is Dissatisfied with the results, and r minds me constantly. Oh well, doesn't matter, fake a smile and grind my teeth to dust
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Laura
I can forgive...just not trust.
I can love someone from afar. I can forgive someone, but choose to not subject myself to constant hurt.
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Tiffany
Self-love
I realized that I feel sad when reflecting on situations where I was abused by others not just because of what they did but because of what I allowed them to do. I want to develop more self-love. I want to forgive myself everyday. I want to feel ultimate compassion for myself first then others. I cannot feel true compassion for others if I don't show compassion towards myself. I am worthy of the greatest love. I am precious and special. I deserve to be loved as I am.
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Tiffany
Projecting
I take responsibility for the abuse I have suffered even though this is flawed logic. This meditation helped me to see that my emotions directed toward my abusers are also how I feel about myself. It is through self-forgiveness that I will learn how to love my abusers correctly.
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Seit
I really hated this one.
Because one person came to all three..... and I'm, struggling with those emotions.
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Alex
Everyone is worthy of compassion
We all have characteristics that are different from everyone. Whatever that is, we are still worthy of love
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Natalie
Compassion
Compassion takes tolerance and an understanding of where people are in their journey. It’s impossible to forgive without compassion.
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Mia
Forgiveness is understanding
With my eyes closed, I approached those who have hurt me the most, and instead of looking at them, I felt their presence. I realized they harmed because they were wounded, blinded by pain. Forgiveness was instantenous!
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Kim
Forgiveness
I learned something that I already knew but had forgotten that everyone deserves to be loved
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Elena
Forgiveness
Ask God for Forgiveness What a powerful word Forgiveness when you are in a relationship you have to forgive yourself for not knowing because you believe in your soulmate when you find out you have been lied to. That's the only way you will be able to forgive your soulmate and with the truth will always set you free. You will see clearly and start feeling better about yourself.
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Amanda
I can have compassion for the ones who have hurt me but
It will take time for me to prepare to accept and forgive them. I need to be stronger with myself
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Greta
Forgiveness
It’ll be hard to forgive the one that hurt me the most. But I know one day I’ll be able to set aside that pain and rekindle our friendship
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Patricia
Internal scarring
Some wounds do not fully heal because we don’t let them; we batter ourselves and refuse to think of the reason behind the scrape or stab, further hurting ourselves. We need to take a step back to see the cause of the battle and maybe - just maybe - make amends with the other side (even if it means we have to forgive without an apology).
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Everett
Coltrane
The scape is huge the birth wide and all sides poured in at once
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Meredith
Anxiousness
Last night I was on a really bad trip and was such in a panic. I had no idea what it was. I don’t know if it was because I got too high, I don’t know if it was an allergic reaction to a face cream, I don’t know but there were so many thoughts in my head that I felt I was going to stop breathing and die. Thankfully, centering myself last night and today really helped ease my anxiety. I am not totally 100% just yet but I am getting better.
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Keiko
So appropriate
This meditation was so appropriate for me this morning. Just yesterday I was explaining to my mom that it’s not good but I sometimes hold grudges.
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maria
compassion = forgiveness
to forgive when its hard you have to believe (convince yourself) that on the most basic level this person deserves love & compassion
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Kaitlyn
Forgiveness
To have compassion for that final person is very hard, but maybe one day I’ll find it in my heart to truly forgive them
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Jessica
Compassion
It is important to forgive. The progression of this meditation was wonderful
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Sharmine
We have the power to forgive
We may not forget the things done to us, but we have all the strength, compassion, kindness, and love to forgive those who have hurt us. It's the beginning to recovery and happiness. We can do this.
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anna
Forgiveness
I learned that everyone deserves to be loved, even those who are not good to you and those who are good to you. Love and forgiveness is free, love and forgiveness is freedom, love and forgiveness is peace.
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Corrin
Yin and Yang
Thinking about the good things that person holds inside them helps me let go and forgive the bad things they’ve done
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Chelsea
Compassion
I just got to remember everyone deserves forgiveness and compassion.u never know what they are dealing with
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Sharlyne
Forgiveness
I learned that the people in my life are worthy of loving me and I can learn how to forgive and have a self appreciation
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James
It helps to remember...
...that everyone is worthy of love, and whatever their journey and pain they never stop being worthy of this.
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Kitkat
Tolerance
When I heard the speaker say that instilling tolerance is a step to forgiveness, I started to breathe shallowly until the speaker told me to keep breathing deeply again. That moment made me think of all the times I stop and say to myself, "Patience is a virtue," because of all the drama that happens in life. This session aided me to remind myself of how I should act if a person has wronged me or vice versa.
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Doreen
Forgiveness?
Not a fan of this one. It made me think of the one person I’m not ready to forgive, and not sure they’ll ever be worthy. Now I’m just sort of. Angry lol.
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Maggie
Compassion and forgiveness
I felt calmer just having someone talk to me and continue to remind me to slow my breathing. I do not feel that ending with someone who I don’t feel compassion for was useful. That I almost feel more anxious now.
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Serenity
I felt like I could let it all out
I learned that even the people that hurt you you could forgive
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Karen
3/19/18
I learned that in order to let go and feel peace and at ease you must have forgiveness.
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bella
Compassion and Forgiveness
I did feel calmer and by focusing on my breathing it helped to make me less focused on what was giving me anxiety. But it also brought up feelings towards people and situation that were causing me and anxiety that I didn’t want to forgive.
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Aimee
Forgiveness
This meditation made me realize I have lots of people I haven't forgiven and still am angry at in my everyday life. It also made me think about those people as more than just what they did.
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Chasity
Forgive
I learned that in order to be able to forgive someone you must send them compassion and put yourself in their shoes. Maybe they are on a rough path or going through something. Not everyone has completely found themselves.
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Julie
4-6-18
I was easily distracted. I need to reflect if this is from outside sources or from not able to let go of the pain I allowed this person to inflict. I am growing in the fact I that I can examine my reasons.
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Danielle
Forgiveness
I struggle finding the compassion to forgive someone in my life and let go of the faults and problems we had. It's not good for me to feel this way and it isn't good for them for me to have these resentments.
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J.W.
prom night
we drove all the way down to the shore to watch the sunrise I pulled my father’s ragtop mustang onto the sand and shut the engine off we could hear the waves and see the stars I held her close cold black night’s stubborn refusal surrendered to vivid pastel pinks and golds the deep red orb oozed from the horizon slowly, like some blob of goo in a lava lamp floating upward “Wow, that was magnificent.” she whispered .
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J.W.
physical
The examination room door opened with a flourish as he made his grand entrance. White lab coat with his name and degrees embroidered in deep green cursive, starched button down shirt, blue jeans. He shook my hand and looked me right in the eye as he said, “Hello good man, you look fantastic! Ten pounds lighter, blood pressure perfect, lab values optimal. I can’t find anything wrong with you!” “Thanks doc, I have done my best to maintain a healthy, balanced daily rhythm. I feel great. I do, however, have one question for you.” “Yes sir?” “Can we skip the prostate finger probe this time around?” A huge smile came across his handsome face as he happily replied, “Absolutely my good man! Now lie back and let me check a few things and I’ll have you out of here in a jiffy!”
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Katie
Forgiving the Unforgivable
I had a very hard time with this, and actually found myself angry rather than more calm. I feel that asking someone to find love and understanding for people that have done extreme harm to you is either not a place that I am at yet, or that the answers in this particular meditation are not applicable to my situation. The reasons why a stranger would rape me are never going to be known to me, and knowing the reason would not bring me any greater peace- as there isn't a justifiable, or even understandable, reason for it. At this moment I feel that going down that rabbit hole would do my psyche more harm than good. I still hold hope that letting go of resentment and finding some kind of forgiveness is possible, but I don't know yet that this is the answer. I will continue to explore this and to trust my instincts and my journey.
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Melissa
Yas!
Love the sudden silence. Makes me feel more connected to the narrator.
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Mark
Love
Everyone deserves love, compassion and forgiveness. Just what I needed for Thanksgiving. Thank you Lauren!
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Karla
Forgiveness
I was able to shine my bright light, love, and peace to utilize compassion in action to show forgiveness to two people who have been highly toxic to me, and from whom I am detaching. I was able to see their suffering and unhappiness to acknowledge that they too deserve love, kindness, and compassion. This was a huge step for me. I feel lighter, like I was able to shed some old baggage that really needed to go. I am grateful for this meditation. May we be safe. May we be healthy. May we be happy. May we live with ease. Namaste. Thank you.
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Lucy
Forgive
I felt warmth and peace but still have trouble with some forgiveness. My mother and my husband have both hurt me and I have trouble trusting.
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Cherish
Giving Space for Love
We cannot forgive without compassion for ourselves and others. Having compassion just means that we have come to the realization that we are all deserving of love. In this way, we can open our heart to feeling some tenderness. Feeling the sensations of tenderness, we begin to soften. With our heart softened, we can gain new perspectives on the situation as well as the person who did us harm. Thus, forgiveness can begin to bloom from our hearts, setting us free from our past. We are all on our own journey in life, performing actions the best we know how given our level of consciousness. Thus, we can have compassion for them, for they do not know what they do not know. Looking back at times where I felt harmed, I saw the people involved at each situation. The first situation I thought of happened recently with a dear loved one. Bringing compassion and tenderness to my heart, I began to see the situation from her standpoint. In hindsight, she wasn’t trying to harm me. Rather, she was looking after what she thought would be my best interests. Realizing this, I can’t fault her for that. Rather, she was frozen with fear and didn’t know what to do. I can’t fault her on that and I forgave. Then I brought another situation and person into my awareness. Because this is an ongoing situation, it was slightly more difficult to bring some compassion in my heart. Finding a way to do it anyways, I began to see that he is a kind person overall, but just doesn’t know how to show gratitude as of yet. Realizing this, I can’t fault him on that and I forgave. Lastly, I brought a situation into my awareness in which having compassion for this person was extremely difficult. Finding a way to do it anyways, I began to see that his consciousness was obscured sometimes by substance abuse as well as pain from his childhood. Realizing this, I can’t fault him for that and I forgave. Looking back at how I reacted to each of these situations, I see where I may have misunderstood or done actions to what I thought was justified at the time. Knowing that my consciousness was obscured by emotional reactivity instead of awake responsiveness, I can’t fault myself for that. Giving myself tenderness and compassion, I forgave myself. After going through this compassion exercise, I have gained new perspectives on the people as well as my role in each of these situations. Having forgiven these people as well as myself, I have given space for love to blossom and grow in my heart. And for that, I am truly grateful! Namaste 🙏🏻❤️☮️
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Christina
Forgiveness and Compassion
I found this helpful. There’s some complexity to the people I thought of during my meditation, and this was a useful guide as I considered that.