Misperceptions
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Jiva Masheder
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It's so easy to leap to conclusions, particularly if we feel stressed or annoyed - listen to this story to hear how we can often understand so wrongly, and how mindfulness can help you see more clearly.
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Tara
The powerfulness Of a mindfulness practice
For me the most important part of this story was not the ending, but was when the man noticed how anger affects his body. Because I now experience complete relaxation and peace while practicing mindfulness I can remember that feeling when I am in a stressful situation and calm myself down just as the man in this story did. I can choose to become even in stressful situations.
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Tammy
Misperceptions
How many times have we all felt this way when in a long line. Being mindful and taking time to breath and relax places us in a more positive mood. Only then can we truly connect and understand others.
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Linda
Misperceptions
It’s nice to be able to catch yourself resisting what is and just let yourself be with it. I’ll never forget the day many years ago when I decided to stop wanting my boss to be more like the president of our company. It was one of the most freeing moments of my life. Once I let him be himself, all my anger dissipated. This meditation reminded me to look at my relationships today to see who I’ve been resisting.
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bella
6.30.18
i have a real quick temper and this story reminded me that other people have a lot of shit goin on that i don’t know about. i needa be more patient and take time to understand before i’m so quick to judge and be mad
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Matt
Anger prevention
It is not always about our own emotions, sometimes it’s about how we could possibly make others feel.
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~Kate~
Painful Feelings
Anxiety and stress are painful, unpleasant emotions. Learning to deal with them is an act of compassion for yourself.
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Deidra
Perceiving my own needs
Sometimes I am perceptive of other’s needs, but I forget to stop and check in on myself. I frequently make sure things are done at work with quality and precision, that I often leave feeling completely empty. It may be on purpose, because what could go wrong if I could feel once I left work?
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Kellie
Misperceptions
In situations that make you feel irritated, you should realize that everybody else has problems too but they are just trying to enjoy their day, don’t let your negative attitude ruin it and just live in the moment
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Cyndee
Stay calm....
Practicing meditation has helped me with anger and I didn’t think about this until listening to this session. I used to work with someone who swore a lot, walked around with strong body language and hateful facial expression and also vented out loud. This behavior is contagious and many of us talked about how we never had a problem with anger until we worked with her for a period of time. I didn’t like the way it felt every time I got angry and I started to revert back to the way I was before this person came into my life. This person is now working all days and we work all night and no one is wearing, we hardly ever get angry and we’ve just gone back to dealing with life situations with a more calm and focused attitude. Thanks Jiva, for this story🙏
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Walter J
Learning...
Mind-full-ness (as I like to call it) Has helped me to become more aware of my choices for action vs. being mind-less-ness and simply re-acting to some stimuli without thinking! I am still learning to catch myself before a Re-action happens and it feels good & has a better outcome just like the guy in the story. 😀
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Abigail
Always Remember
This helped me to calm down and remember that other people are also going through so many things that others, such as ourselves, don’t know about. We should all be kinder to each other, as we are all connected in ways beyond our understanding.
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Debb
Misperceptions
In one word this mini-story was excellent! How often do we form an opinion about something when we don’t know all of the facts in the situation?
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Tiffyy
Wow
I learned I was that man standing in line but more importantly I was also that cashier lady. Makes me reflect a lot.
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Christine
Great story!
This story really points out how quick we, as a society, are to judge a situation. It’s a great reminder that sometimes everyone needs to pause.
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Sam
Love this
This story is me! Impatient, rushed, quick to judge. The simplicity of slowing down, pausing and realizing that I don’t have all the facts. It is so freeing.
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Ellie
Hair comb anger
I leave my hair comb in the bathroom because it’s convenient and because the mirror is in there. I get angry and scream, complain, and blame every one who uses this bathroom. One is always on my mind to blame and that’s my brother. I struggle to be mindful of the situation and this contributes to my anxiety. It makes me dislike my family and think they are all responsible for my anger when only one or two of my siblings are getting my comb out of the bathroom without telling me.
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Cassie
Taking a step back
This story has made me realize that I am a lot like the man. I am so quick to judge and assume before understanding all the facts. I must learn to take a step back when necessary and reflect on the situation before judging. Great story!
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Estella.P
Be chill
This dude had worked hard on resisting anger and that was good because if he ahead not he would have been very upset with himself.this story teaches me to subside my anger and to never judge a book by it’s cover.great story!
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Matthew
You never know...
You simply can never know the true story of those around you. Better to give the benefit of the doubt in any given situation. I HOPE that others around me do this now! I've had plenty of situations where I've had to grumble or even shout to the thoughtless masses who are being rude or pushy...I may not LOOK like I have physical issues stemming from my massive stroke, but a thoughtless nudge at the wrong time can send me to the ground now. I recall a time over 20 years ago now...my wife was pregnant with our first daughter Aurora, who just turned 20 years old last week. We were in line at the local movie theater to see the first star Wars ”prequel” and there was a huge queue line of excited fans waiting to get in. We were near the doors because she and a coworker friend had been able to sit in line all day while I and the rest of our party were at work for the day. When the doors were opened, the crowd rushed forward, jostling my wife and threatening to push her down. I ROARED over the crowd that they were endangering a pregnant woman! That stopped most of the jostling! At 6’-4” with a huge barrel chest, I can be pretty loud and intimidating!
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Kristen
It was a reminder that you always don’t know the full story. Too often people make assumptions or judgments about situations which are often not correct.
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John/Kate
Misjudged
Sometimes when you see someone and judge them you don’t know a lot about them. We all often misjudge a person because we don’t know the full story. We may not know what a person is going through or all the tough times. Sometimes we should just smile no mater what. We don’t know what they are going through but a smile might change a person’s day or attitude. A small act of kindness can change the world. If I have learned one thing it’s that a smile goes a long way.
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Farrah
Misjudged
Sometimes when we get angry at the strangest things, we have to stop, take a breather, and put ourselves in that persons shoes. For example, a girls is sad but took your spot on accident at school, instead of getting mad, we need to ask what’s wrong.
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Cree
Misperceptions
I felt that this was telling me it's ok to feel what we feel, but to always know the facts before allowing that feeling to take over. Dont be too quick to judge or get angry without knowing all of the facts of the situation. Always be humble and grateful for what we have as other may not be so lucky. Always be kind and patient as others may need our projection of these to help make their day a little brighter. Life is not a guarantee, slow down, enjoy the little things in life and even the big things too, just always remember to enjoy it.
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Susan
Misperceptions
Be aware! You never know all of the facts. You only know what you see and how you see it. Try to open your mind. Pause before you react.
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Sarah
Misperceptions
I learned that you don’t always know everything about a person or a situation, and therefore should always consider this before making a judgement or acting on one.
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Rob
Present
Somehow not thinking is the best way to feel refreshed. Waiting in stillness and keeping from movement helps tremendously.
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LC
It was calming
I learned that I am not the only person who responds to certain situations angered.
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Ella
Perfect
People talk about me that im perfert in myself , they believe that i have my own way too survive any problem. Because they think im perfect . But the truth is i feel tired , im tired of these life , i feel always alone , thats why i download this app to feel
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dani
Great Story
I also find myself getting easily angered. That is partially to why I downloaded this app. What a great, quick story.
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Walter J
Acceptance ...
What a powerful short story!! I found several ‘learns’ tucked away in it. Like never underestimate the love of a mom - it is a powerful force! Both the child’s mom having to work to feed her family and her mom making herself available to bring her grand baby in to see mom. Or the hidden miracle that sometimes others know what is best for us - as in the case of the man forced into taking mindfulness sessions to get his anger under control- thank goodness he was able to swallow his pride and actually pay attention in class & learn some useful things. And that is a gem in itself - apply what you learn in life as soon as you can. It helps to solidify the lesson and most likely it came into your life, at that time for a reason. Which brings us to awareness - I am fully convinced that life gives us hints and signs of what we should do... but, we must be paying attention, living in the Now, aware of & non-judge mental of the form they may take. Great story Jiva, thank you! ❤️🙏🏼🍀
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Avia
Sometimes people are stressed about something and the energy can be frustrating for others to deal w
Be patient because you never know what people are going through and a little bit of patience can go a long way.
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Susan
Misperceptions
Pause and relax before you react. You never know all of the facts so don't jump to conclusions
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Alicia
Misperceptions story
I really enjoyed listening to this story! It has such a great message - being angry hurts others and yourself. It is easy to get angry about things but it’s so important to take a step back and consider where the anger is actually coming from, especially if you don’t have all the facts in a situation. Loved this story!
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Michel
Hurry leads go fury or worry
I noticed myself in the man, and that when I feel rushed I often either get frustrated or anxious, when really there is rarely if ever a true emergency. Why be impatient? Why am I rushing? I feel and share my best when I slow down and set my ego and false urgency aside.
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Jennifer
Thought
You don't know all the facts in a situation. Relax, breathe, smiles, acknowledge the positive, a baby's smile.
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Laura
Interesting
That is a very common situation and it is great to gain some perspective on it in a broader sense
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Salome
There’s more to the story
Often i get overwhelmed and anxious thinking about what is going on with my ex or what he might be doing; if he’s seeing someone else or if he’s completely done with me. But i don’t know his whole story and he doesn’t know mine anymore. And that’s okay. If that’s how it’s meant to be then that’s how it’s meant to be.
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Tine
Anger management
Ik leerde dat er altijd meer is aan een verhaal, een moment.. gedrag van iemand daar zit ook steeds iets achter Als je voelt dat je kwaad wordt- wordt bewust van je lichaam - wat voel je? En kalmeer eerst voor je iemand zou aanspreken.
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Amanda
Thank you
This story made me a little teary and has changed my whole perspective today. Thank you. We really never know what someone else might be going through and it is so important to slow down and understand our emotions before responding to a situation. Peace and love always.
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Alichia
Eye opening
I noticed that this is how I feel when I am frustrated by a situation and in a hurry. I need to be more mindful of other peoples situations and not jump to conclusions because I don’t know the whole story.
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Andrea
Nothing the Body
I’ve felt this way so many times. I blame other people for my frustration. I would react and speak without thinking. I always hated the way it drained me after those feelings went away. It took so much energy out of me to be mad. I still have these moments but much less. I like that the story mentions noticing how your body starts to feel as a reaction. The heart racing, blood boiling, thoughts running fast, and he stopped and noticed how his body was reacting and was able to control it. That is something I would like to try.
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Elisa
Angry and frustrated
I can’t decide what is right and best for me. I’m afraid of making a bad choose and loose money... that makes me feel tense and angry and frustrated